So You Think You're Ready for A Relationship?

I see a lot of gay guys wishing to have their special someones, some are even desperate posting their messengers and contact numbers on their profiles for an easy reach. What they are aren't aware of and realize are their safety and security nor wasting hundreds or thousands of money replying even to some prank trippers only.

While I understand that they wanted to feel to be so special and loved by someone. They are willing to gamble using their hard earned money for some senseless guys thus, ending to some added shame and disrespect for one's self more. Making them feel that they're the ugliest duck in this world.

How and where do we search the good guys then?

Before I answer this question, I want you to make a reflection of yourself.

Are you indeed ready?

Do you have what it takes to be a good lover?

What is your purpose of finding someone to love?

Or are you just looking for some temporary love? Worse, a sexual love only!

You can find in the net a lot of tips how to find lovers or partners. Others can be so ideal and believable. We even think that it's easier said than done. Some are even wishing for some recommendations for ideal partners. It could work for some but not for all.

So called standards can vary from one person to another.

Charles Darwin even theorized the principles of attraction. The survival of the fittest being is included in finding your would be partner. This might be complicated to some depending on your educational attainment and understanding.

Gay teens are mostly on the discovery stage. They thought that saying I Love You is that easy after a night of terrific sex. Only to find out later that his "partner" is fucking someone else.

Middle-aged men are not spared from these sad experiences. I can't blame some people why they don't believe in gay relationships anymore after dozens of heart aches and emotional breakdowns.

Is this the reason why our elders and experts tell us that gay happiness is only good when you're young and still beautiful? That our beautiful bodies and faces will soon fade and overtaken by the younger ones someday? That the time will come that you will use your money to buy some sex? What a bleak, dark and sad future for gays isn't it?

Answers to these questions can be very psychological nor philosophical that an average mind cannot fathom indeed.

1. Prepare yourself first.

Once you've reached your maturity nor done from playing around, I think it's time for you to make a self-reflection.

Look at the mirror. Are you still attractive? Do a lot of guys look at you still? If they take a second look at you then pray that you don't have a dirt on your face only. Which kind or level of people your physical beauty will attract most?

Don't dream of acquiring a very handsome guy if you aren't! Though this is possible if you have the money but then again, YOU ARE ONLY FOOLING YOURSELF FOR THE NTH TIME!

FACT. Usually, a guy who's lesser handsome than you will stare at you. Isn't it that you do that as well with guys prettier than you?

ANOTHER FACT. We should know if we are still pretty or not anymore. Don't believe your mom telling you that you still look good when the guys in public or elsewhere start to ignore you.

Solution? Take good care of yourself. Stop those bad habits. Smoking makes you look older same thing with alcohol that makes your skin appear dry.

Remember that attractions start with physical outlooks.

Be healthy and wise.

2. Look at your closet and dresser.

Do you have what it takes to be noticed? Are you still wearing the right kind of clothes like when you're younger? Or are they already a passe'?

Ask for second opinions from your friends. You think what you're wearing may not be as good anymore like you've thought of.

As we age, our tastes for fashion must adjust as well. You don't want to be tagged as a fashion victim right?

Wrinkles would definitely come. When you start smiling no matter how beautiful your teeth are can be a gruesome sight for most gay guys. That you are indeed just a thing of the past.

3. Get ready to accept guys/things as they are.

If you found someone that is so unstable emotionally nor a very active gay guy like you do, try creating a room for some patience and trust. You'll never know that you're the right one for him nor the kind of guy that he'd been waiting for so many years. Every guy you meet can be compared to a gift box filled with some surprises once you get to know him more.

to be continued....