You Got Rejected? Here's Why...

Call it a planned meet up for a brief or casual sex at the moment, here are some things that you should be carefully aware of and MUST CHECK:

1. Your Outfit

Fine. You are wearing your most favorite color of a shirt, just make sure they aren't blouses for girls. You fool. =)

2. Your Walk and Mannerisms

You'll never know from a far that he's already observing you the way you move. It is fine to be honest with what you are wearing, but did he tell you his true outfit as well? One way eye ball. Your gestures can be fine with others depending on their preferences.

3. Your Hygiene

A simple shirt is fine regardless of the brand. But wait, did you brush your teeth? Do you regularly visit your dentist for some check ups? A black spot on your teeth shows clearly that you can't afford to maintain yourself yet, you have the money to spend in sucking those smelly dicks.

Smell Your Armpits. It is true that you could be immune with your own smell but when people start covering their noses when you pass by or in front of you aside from frowning their faces, you should ring the alarm.

Your Fingernails. Unless you're a hunk farmer and the two of you met at the rice paddies while he's plowing his field this is fine. Cut them clean.

Your Skin. Don't engage in a meet up when you have eruptions on your face or neck. The staphylococcus bacteria of your acne is a sure eyestrain and poisonous too when licked and ingested. 




Your Ear Lobes. Make sure that there are no soap leftovers. This might be mistaken as your ear wax. Wipe them away and rinse thoroughly. 

Get some skin lotion to maintain your skin. Being gay is stressful and tiring. We age too fast so invest in delaying your wrinkles. If you could afford some natural Vitamin E then you may take them.

4. Your Hair

Indeed our crowning glory. Skinhead style is very safe. Choose hair colors that will only match your skin. Blonde? Stop rivaling Madonna or Lady Gaga or forever be a gaga.

5. Your Voice

Don't wonder why he didn't give you a callback after an abrupt and intentional disconnection. You simply failed his test because you sounded like a screaming faggot. No matter that you look like a hunk or possessing some handsome face. A girlie voice can surely break a future casual sex.

6. Your Claims

You told him you were this, you were that and looked like a Greek god? Come on... you're just fooling yourself. What a waste of time, money and effort!

7. Your Accessories

We all know that not everyone is capable of wearing, or justify that they can carry or wear properly those things. If you aren't sure how to use them? Ask and consult or just don't! Or be another Donald Duck.

8. You Lied!

There is nothing sweeter than being honest. Set your minimum expectations to avoid frustrations. Standards and tastes in looking for sex partners vary. Some young guys prefer older men; some guys find married men hotter; some guys prefer feminine looking; some guys prefer gym bots and rippled muscles; some guys prefer as good looking like them; some prefer tall ones while others prefer dwarfs nor chubs and hairy.

Describe to them your physical looks in advance and don't brag that you look like a movie actor, yet... you did not specify that your actor look a like was actually an actress or someone who's usually fed to the wild animals of the zoo.

In case you were successful in having sex with your kind of guy for the very first encounter, but you are still possessing those negatives presently? Thank yourself, the guy was just kind and professional not to turn you down first hand. Don't expect for another round. If he doesn't text you back, replies to your emails or call you back? YOU ARE SIMPLY REJECTED AND WAS VERY DISMAYED AND WAS TOO SHY TO TELL YOU. Move on!

Oh one more thing... If the eyeball who "one-wayed" you suddenly communicate after a few minutes or hours with you? Saying I'm sorry? Or his cell phone suddenly went dead? You could be lucky. Otherwise, the two of you will lead to a barrage of #$%#@*&^ texts full of F words or curses you wouldn't want to hear nor wish you weren't born as gay.

Reality Checks

We are called gays, bisexuals, homosexuals, trans whatever branding you prefer. The degree of femininity is very obvious and will always appear unknowingly and unguarded. The discreet ones can't escape from this as well. Their girly inclinations could show in some of their endeavors and hobbies. Be it in  the field of the arts or whenever they are with their true friends and family.

The very discreet guys are very good actors in front of you. How many times that the discreet guys I had sex with dismayed me a lot of times? I saw some if not most of them in gay bars and street parties of the Metro wearing those dashing gay mannequin outfits. I even saw some in their unguarded moments belting their vocal cords out like Regine Velasquez, Chaka Khan, Donna Summer, Mariah Carey or Diana Ross. I saw some who can pirouette much better than a Russian ballerina.

How many hunks I had sex with who sounded like pussycats when they are about to cum?

Funny things may arrive after a few minutes of casual and brief "macho and manly" sex, surprisingly after, the two of you start exchanging gay lingo words and even scream like fags and started to share your funny stories and even exchange numbers of your previous guys. 

For those who aren't aware that they are indeed a part of our community, try asking some good friends. Ask them. How do I look like? Do I look so gay or bakla? If they smile and nod at you. They are your true friends. =)

Now, why are you smiling? Guilty? =)

The Usual Turn Offs In A Gay Profile

Aren't you wondering why some gay guys only take a peek on your profile without dropping a Hi or Hello?

You might not be aware, but the following are the usual blunders for having very few visitors on your profile. The lesser count would mean no repeat viewers, unless your profile is full of galleries filled with nude pictures not necessarily yours.

I could say that most gay guys are usually intelligent. Some are really reading the contents of your profile. Be careful with what you write and post, for this one surely reflects the kind of person you are.

It is true that you cannot please everybody because everyone has their own set of standards that could either be realistic or just plain foolishness.

Here are more tips for you to revise and revitalize your gay profiles:

1. If you project yourself as a macho gay guy, then don't post pictures that refers or would resort to your girly inclinations. Don't end up having that reputation as a poser or a liar.

i.e. your skimpy, girly, very colorful and flowery undies; your background pictures with girly tendencies.

Ikaw na ang macho!

2. Avoid posting your butt pics if you declare yourself as a PURE TOP!

Simple thing... Pure Tops are lured by butts and ass pictures, studying the possibilities on how to enter your butthole when negotiations are made. Any gay guy who would stare at your profile would simply say... Etchosera tong baklang ito. Top daw sya? Magtigil!

3. I'm not gay, I'm STRAIGHT! is written and declared on their profiles

Talaga lang? Hindi nga? Kelan pa?

4. I Am Bi. Period.

How come that you are present daily on gay network sites that you are a member? How come that the pictures found on your profile are mostly men and no pussy shots can be seen? Ganyan pala ang BI?

5. Be careful on your choice of sexual positions

If you click the wrong button saying that you are either Top or Bottom or a Versa, don't blame your viewers if they invite you wrongly because it is your fault.


6. Does everyone knows the difference between a Versa Top or a Versa Bottom? I don't see much difference here. You are plain Versatile. Period. You fuck and can be fucked! And then  when you start chatting you say you are a Pure Top? Oh come on!

7. No pictures can be seen.

Fine. You are the most discreet member like what you declare and believe, and thus, you can't post pics. You are making it hard for yourself to find a friend or a sex buddy. You are just another frustration for a viewer. I am not encouraging you to post a picture which isn't yours. Put a pic of your arm or your crotch at least if you are too scared of your reputation. But don't post pics that aren't yours!

8. Profile is 0% BLANK

Who would dare looking at your profile again? Your Viewers can't buy much of your intelligent words written. A picture can launch a thousand impressions from your viewers.

9. Profile is Seen with Picturesque Views Only.

Are you a tour guide? How could you make love or have sex with those beautiful mountains and rivers? You wanna impress your viewers that you have visited those places? What for?

10.  Check your Grammar

You project yourself as an intelligent being, but look at your style of writing. You're just another laughing stuff and pretender. Don't go overboard if you can't justify yourself. Write in a language only where you are very comfortable and not necessarily an expert.

11. You claim that you have a huge dick

A 5 inch long phallus is already huge for you? Shame on you.

12. You claim that you are rich

Why is it that we see ordinary brands that you wear only? Why is it that the backgrounds of your pictures are from a filthy room or dilapidated walls and roofs? Your room displays are buy one take ones. Ordinary and ready-made curtains, plastic chairs and ordinary plastic monoblocks?

13. You're a world class traveler

How come we only see one country? What is so prestigious living in that particular country as an OFW? I demand... world class traveler definition should be.

14. Your profile shout out is the total opposite of your claims.

You are looking for some relationship but the gallery of your pictures were taken from your orgy sessions! Wrong move.

15. Your profile shout out sends out negative vibes at once such as:

a. No effems please (because you are otherwise?)

b. Gym Fit only (but are you STD free?)

c. Guys 30 plus above only (but the young ones wont stop seeking for you also)

d. I want guys of my same age (create your own gay network site then)

e. I want people who talks with sense only (then his profile shout out says SEX now!)

f. I am handsome and cute and so you MUST BE (Where's the proof? Is this indeed you? How come I don't see a cute face here? So that's how you define a handsome face really? Hmmm...POSER?)

g. I want Sex on Phone Only! (no offense, but isn't it that guys who has beautiful voices are usually... There, I offended you now. lol)

h. Add me on FB

For some, the real personal profile on FB is quite exclusive and for professional use only for common, good and trusted friends alone. The lewd pictures that you upload in FB once reported by a fellow member can lead to a forever ban from the FB Management. If you ask and demand for their facebook email, that could earn you some outward rejection and decline for sure. You wouldn't want to add a friend that is exhibiting an erotic pose isn't it? Or your professional friends will have a different impression on you. =)

i. I want to meet people that has no traces whatsoever (hoping that you don't have them likewise)

j. No picture, no reply (mind posting your real pics instead?)

k. Emotional and romantic phrases for shout outs (the usual Romeo seeking for his own Romeo drama)

l. I'm broken-hearted, searching for the new one (I suggest that you "rest" first and enjoy being single or the next immediate one is again short-lived)

m. I'm a masseur at a cheap price including extras (shall I say prostitution instead?)

n. I am cute. (oh yes you are! kidding aside)

o. Shout outs written in a foreign language (are you in the right continent or country?)

p. read my profile for your questions (nothing sensible written)

q. I'm looking for friends only, I have a partner (your partner is here too)

r. I want fun (wanna watch cartoons instead?)

s. I want a partner to spend with the rest of my life (your mother?)

t. I am more than what you think (I can't think of any. really!)

u. I'm here just to observe (why then you sent me a private message?)

v. I have a place (so do I)

w. Orgy/Threesome Right Now! (The Brain is still the largest sex organ, so use it wisely!)

x. I want a hot guy only (perhaps he's cold)

y. I am simple but wild (a platypus?)

z. I'm looking for a serious relationship (seriously?)

So... what do we do now?

The Successful Way To Chat With BIs and Gays

Before the heydays of Yahoo Messenger and MIRC chat rooms, It made me wonder why people resort to online conversations.

The dawn of the INTERNET made the connection with people at a snap of a finger.

For first time chatters, experience could be fun if they know how to chat or could be a nightmare if they only reply with HIs or HELLOs.

I give you basic tips to nail down your chatmates for your bed later. =)

DON'T

1. Start Your Conversation With ASL Or NASL

This one could make or break a conversation depending on the mood of your chatmate. His willingness to share with you his location is fine, at times your chatmate isn't convenient of giving out his exact location or NAME at once. So be sensitive first.

2. Type... SEB?

Sex Eyeballs at the start of the conversation shows some desperation already. You seem so in a hurry to find a sex partner. Probably, he's just chatting in an INTERNET Cafe or he's about to leave or his time is up already. Have some fake decency first. LOL

3. Type Rude Comments About His Pictures or Profile

Come on! Be polite please. There are a lot of examples to say unpleasant things in a very nice way. If you think that he fooled you because you found out he's  just a freakin poser? Just put a smiley on the chat box then leave or ignore. No need to type that he's a loser or a fuckin poser only. Who knows? He might be much better than the picture you see and testing you only.

4. Be Judgmental For The Very First Time

Your chatmate might be very frank only with his replies to you, but this doesn't mean he's a rude person already for the rest of his life.

5. Be Overly Sensitive

If you were reared  by your parents as a cry baby, then the chatroom is not for you. Gays out there are mostly rude and competing like hell with one another just for some cheap hook ups. Your cultural orientation must be checked to understand the different kinds of races and individual differences.

6. Offer Your Webcam View At First If You Are Showing Your Face At Once

The proliferation of free software in the net to capture videos and images of you is no longer a passe. Worse if you are viewed jerking off with your face. Don't be surprised that your video can be seen at some porn sites and blogsites already and viewers feasting on your scandal. Know the person first or chat for a longer period if possible.

FACT. Guys who record you show their webcams as well. The only difference is... YOU ARE RECORDED BY THEM! And why would they tell you that you are recorded? So think again.

Engage in cam to cam only if you know him already or LOSE YOUR REPUTATION!

7. Brag Your Credentials If Not Asked

So what? Are you trying hard to sell yourself? You think you are the most beautiful or intelligent person he'd chat with? For all he cares.

8. Engage In Chatting If You Are Indeed Busy 

Regardless if you are chatting with multiple chatmates since you are popular, but do try to reply to your chatmate once in a while and say excuse me or sorry for being delayed.

9. Quit Promptly Or Leave Your Chats Unless You Are Disconnected.

This act is very, very rude. YOU JUST SIMPLY LEAVE AN IMPRESSION that you are UNEDUCATED and STUPID at the same time. Learn how to say goodbye or excuses in a nice way. Don't leave an impression that you're just "another" guy unworthy of their time.

10. If You Are In A Bad Mood

This will be reflected in every word you type. Sending negativities to your chatmate.

DO

1. Be Cheerful At First

Say a nice joke, phrase, quote or a very short story or topic as an ice breaker. 

2. Be Respectful And Polite

You might never know that your chatmate is highly educated than you. Regardless of his pictures or nasty shout outs in the chat room.

3. Praise Your Chatmate If You Read Or Saw Something Nice About Them.

Do this in a natural way.

4. Ask Necessary Things At First Only.

Be very discreet please. Every word you type for a new stranger might make or break your chat with him. REMEMBER THAT WORDS TYPED IN A CHATROOM DOESN'T EXPRESS EMOTIONS unlike when you are in a face to face chat. A smiley to add can help you with this.

5. Respond To Every Pertinent Question He Raises Before Raising A New Topic

It annoys me when a chatmate is showering me with questions ala FBI style.

Tell him direct that you will reply to his queries one at a time only and you expect to have the same information as well from him.

6. Be Attentive

You may have an idea when your chatmate is chatting with someone else or if he's busy by not replying to you quickly.

7. Be Professional

Regardless if you are chatting with someone who finished his grade school or high school only, This doesn't make you a person much better than him. Attitude and character counts more than a guy who is much schooled like you do. Be educated, not just learned.

8. Stop Being A Bitch

This is already given in the homosexual world. This can be best explained psychologically why it happens.

9. Be Culturally Aware

Every race or color of skin varies when it comes to conversations as well. Be careful in every comment you post or you might offend someone. If he raised the topic first then it's an opportune time for you to discuss.

10. Be Bubbly and A Positive Thinker

Even if it's only a chat. Your happy mood can be felt by your chatmate.

There are many more reasons that you can add in here. Some can be ridiculous or funny. But there are only two ways for you to be successful all the time. BE HAPPY and FRIENDLY. =)

How Big is BIG Indeed?

After meeting 17 men of various nationalities, I can say that I'm quite knowledgeable when it comes to dick sizes. =)

It is also not true that all self-declared homosexuals are experts when it comes to determining dick sizes.

The orientation of seeing, declaring or holding a phallus really varies.

Though others may agree that many Caucasians are well endowed, it is not also an established fact that they have the most numbers who are indeed well hung.

The African blacks mostly have huge phallus. Now, if they have reached continental America or Europe then you know your migration history very well.

It is also surprising to see that some Asians have huge cocks, and therefore being huge is not purely racial in nature.

Whenever I check some gay social networking sites, most of the guys there make me laugh. They declare themselves having L,XL, or XXL yet... When I see their phallus pictures I get dismayed and tumble in laughter. Is that what you call BIG?

I see some reasons to this... guys who has delusions of grandeur when it comes to their dick sizes.

Why is this?

Because...

1. They haven't seen much comparison yet.

2. They wanna fool prospective sex partners declaring having a BIG one. They thought that their "thing" and size declaration are sure fire marketable tools to find casual and abrupt sex partners. The size queens can sometimes be uneducated for the REAL BIG ONE and thus, agree at once that IT IS INDEED HUGE!

3. They have problems when it comes to looking and seeing at dimensions and shapes. They may be blinded in seeing the differences between 1D, 2D or 3D.

4. They can possibly be Myopic lookers too. Beware of webcams... camera lenses project it big only.

A vast experience helps when it comes to holding or sucking cocks, it matters too, believe me.

Your geographical location might be populated by small- cocked people so when you see a 5-Incher, you declare that it's humongous already.

Fine. Big cocks are indeed eye poppers. One look at a guy standing and holding his huge dong next to you in a urinal makes you shiver. You start wondering how it feels to touch his cock or the possibility of licking it if he will allow you. =)

We all know as well that they all taste the same no matter the size is. LOL. Why is it that every time we see a new cock, some if not most, are very curious to hold or touch it?

Does size matter?

YES and NO.

Yes, if you want a bigger challenge.

NO, if you are after for some serious relationships and that physical attributes are less important.

But come on! If there's a chance of winning a handsome guy with a huge cock, you go grab him isn't it? Some size queens disregard a handsome face, as long as he is humongous and size-gifted.

Human penis size is the measured length and width of the human penis. The most accurate measurement of the human penis comes from several measurements at different times, as there is natural variability in size due to arousal level, time of day, room temperature, frequency of sexual activity, and unreliability of the measurement methods.

A mean erect human penis is approximately 12.9–15.0 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length.

Wiki adds...

Most of human penis growth happens between infancy and the age of five, and in five years after the onset of puberty. Age is not believed to negatively correlate with penis size, and studies have not found a relation between penis size and race.

There is evidence both for and against a link between penis size and the size of other body parts. Some environmental factors in addition to genetic, such as the presence of endocrine disruptors, can affect penis growth. An adult penis with an erect length of less than 7 cm or just over 2 inches but otherwise formed normally is referred to in a medical context as having the micropenis condition. Circumcised men are on average 8 millimeters shorter in terms of erect length compared to their intact counterparts.

Among gay men

A study undertaken at Utrecht University found that the majority of homosexual men in the study regarded a large penis as ideal, and having one was linked to self esteem. One study analyzing the self-reported Kinsey data set found that homosexual men had statistically larger penises than their heterosexual counterparts. One potential explanation given is a difference in the exposure to androgen hormones in the developing embryo. Evidence points towards men of each of these two orientations being equally likely to exaggerate the size of their penis.

Penis size and condom use

One Australian study of 184 men looked at penis length and circumference in relationship to condom breakage or slippage. 3,658 condoms were used. The study found that condoms, when used correctly, had a breakage rate of 1.34% and, of slippage, 2.05%, with a total failure rate of 3.39%. Penis length did not influence slippage, but penis circumference and broken condoms were strongly correlated, with larger sizes increasing the rate of breakage.

So how do you measure then?

Penis Health says...

The recommended measuring technique is the one known as "bone pressed flaccid/erect length". The reason why it is called thus is because the ruler is laid along the side of the penis and pressed a little into the pubic bone.

As you probably know already, the penis is a sensitive mass of tissue through which a lot of blood is circulated. It shrinks when cold and it expands a little in heat. Tight pants keep it shrunk, while the morning jog is likely to engorge it as it puts the entire cardiovascular system in motion.

This is why you should measure your length from the bone and not from the fat pad that covers it.

Still, you should keep in mind that any layer of fat added to the pad will cut into the penis size and make it look smaller.

This means that sometimes losing a bit of weight might make the difference between a successful penis measurement.

So remember this, be honest with yourself when measuring. Every centimeter counts to reach an inch.

Remember that 80s singer Carrie Lucas said? It's not what you got. It's how you use it. =)

So You Think You're Ready for A Relationship? Part Two

The Continuation...

4. Check Your Age Gap

I remember a lesson from my Psychology professor that a harmonious relationship will arise, be it among heteros or homos that will likely to be successful ONLY, if the range of your age gap falls within 5 years. Regardless that he or she is younger or older than you as long as the range falls within 5.

This would mean that the harmony of your likes and dislikes among things or tastes in clothing, music, food, movie, etc. would be narrower and acceptable for you to stay attracted or in-love longer than expected.

So... if you are 40 and your partner is only 18? It wont really last. This is due to the wide age gap that I was telling you. Just imagine, could you still dig the kind of clothes he wears or bars that the 18 year old love to cruise? The mature guy could understand the situation for the time being ONLY.

5. Establish Your Standards As Minimal As Possible

Who wouldn't fall nor get attracted with a very handsome creature? Who wouldn't want to acquire a partner who's got a lovely face nor a body moulded from a Greek god?

Some put on their profiles wanting a guy who's mentally gifted. Does that mean you're dumb? lolz

I know... there are times that we seek for partners with qualities that are not present among ourselves. You seek for an idol, you tend to fill an empty vacuum in your personality. Some are successful in finding one but mostly a failure.

I admit. I admire guys who are intelligent with numbers nor algebraic expressions even with radicals or calculus because these subjects are my waterloos and I feel so impatient in computations. But, I can discuss anything under the sun except Math ha ha. I'd rather fight pound for pound if you ask me to analyze nor compute. lolz

Like I've said in one of my articles here, when you are in love, standards don't matter. Our hearts don't think, they only feel.

6. Seek A Partner Only That Is Physically Suitable For You

Look at yourself again. Are you as handsome as him? Are you a head-turner too? If not, go get an average guy only. You want your eyes flooding in tears most of the time because you feel so insecure? You feel that this "cute" guy is enjoying your company ONLY because you treat him ALL THE TIME?

7. Do You Have Work Or A Stable Job?

Dating involves money. Gift-giving entails money. Dining nor eating in a fast food entails cost no matter how cheap as long as it's clean and edible. Sustaining a relationship involves money. You two don't have a place for your sex bout? Get ready with a less than a thousand bucks for a motel room. Yup, relationships reciprocates financial investments too.

8. Have You Decided To Be Gay For The Rest Of Your Life?

If you are seeking nor dreaming of a relationship to last longer, then start asking yourself if you can handle tough situations in a homosexual love. If you are just experimenting on the feeling of a homo love then you could be quite unfair to someone who's really into a gay serious relationship.

9. How Open Are You with Your Family and Friends?

This could be another tough issue if the partner you are seeking has personality problems with himself. If you are effeminate? It is less likely that you could get a partner that has no traces of homosexuality.

I admire gay couples that has no qualms anymore holding hands in public nor both of them are swaying their hips while walking or running.

If you still have personal issues with your bi or gay reputation among your family members nor with officemates and friends? I don't think you could be happy for a longer period of time with your partner.

10. Check Your Body Language and Mannerisms

How do you speak or converse with your crush? Does your eyes roll everytime you utter a word? How do you walk? How do you dress? Would you like to have a partner who's girlier than you? lolz

This talks about personal preferences. Did you notice some guys wanting to talk with you first on the phone to test how you speak before the meet up or sex bout? This could be the second step after assessing your dashing pictures to validate your level of homosexual tendencies.

So where do you find your ideal partner then? Believe me. They are EVERYWHERE. It is only a matter of time and luck. Though you may agree with me that a serious partner can't be found in a bar or in a bath house or in some gay network sites. You could give each other a chance, but be wary of course. Perform some rain checks first always!

You have noticed that your crush is away from the site momentarily because he found someone special. This doesn't mean that you aren't special as well. Perhaps, the guy he met has more suitable credentials that you do, FOR NOW and this could be for some physical or professional reasons.

Go ahead fall in love, don't avoid. When you fall, get ready to feel that hurt at the same time. You always learn from experiences and mistakes is it not? That'll make you wiser next time around.

We are in an imperfect world and so are you.

So You Think You're Ready for A Relationship?

I see a lot of gay guys wishing to have their special someones, some are even desperate posting their messengers and contact numbers on their profiles for an easy reach. What they are aren't aware of and realize are their safety and security nor wasting hundreds or thousands of money replying even to some prank trippers only.

While I understand that they wanted to feel to be so special and loved by someone. They are willing to gamble using their hard earned money for some senseless guys thus, ending to some added shame and disrespect for one's self more. Making them feel that they're the ugliest duck in this world.

How and where do we search the good guys then?

Before I answer this question, I want you to make a reflection of yourself.

Are you indeed ready?

Do you have what it takes to be a good lover?

What is your purpose of finding someone to love?

Or are you just looking for some temporary love? Worse, a sexual love only!

You can find in the net a lot of tips how to find lovers or partners. Others can be so ideal and believable. We even think that it's easier said than done. Some are even wishing for some recommendations for ideal partners. It could work for some but not for all.

So called standards can vary from one person to another.

Charles Darwin even theorized the principles of attraction. The survival of the fittest being is included in finding your would be partner. This might be complicated to some depending on your educational attainment and understanding.

Gay teens are mostly on the discovery stage. They thought that saying I Love You is that easy after a night of terrific sex. Only to find out later that his "partner" is fucking someone else.

Middle-aged men are not spared from these sad experiences. I can't blame some people why they don't believe in gay relationships anymore after dozens of heart aches and emotional breakdowns.

Is this the reason why our elders and experts tell us that gay happiness is only good when you're young and still beautiful? That our beautiful bodies and faces will soon fade and overtaken by the younger ones someday? That the time will come that you will use your money to buy some sex? What a bleak, dark and sad future for gays isn't it?

Answers to these questions can be very psychological nor philosophical that an average mind cannot fathom indeed.

1. Prepare yourself first.

Once you've reached your maturity nor done from playing around, I think it's time for you to make a self-reflection.

Look at the mirror. Are you still attractive? Do a lot of guys look at you still? If they take a second look at you then pray that you don't have a dirt on your face only. Which kind or level of people your physical beauty will attract most?

Don't dream of acquiring a very handsome guy if you aren't! Though this is possible if you have the money but then again, YOU ARE ONLY FOOLING YOURSELF FOR THE NTH TIME!

FACT. Usually, a guy who's lesser handsome than you will stare at you. Isn't it that you do that as well with guys prettier than you?

ANOTHER FACT. We should know if we are still pretty or not anymore. Don't believe your mom telling you that you still look good when the guys in public or elsewhere start to ignore you.

Solution? Take good care of yourself. Stop those bad habits. Smoking makes you look older same thing with alcohol that makes your skin appear dry.

Remember that attractions start with physical outlooks.

Be healthy and wise.

2. Look at your closet and dresser.

Do you have what it takes to be noticed? Are you still wearing the right kind of clothes like when you're younger? Or are they already a passe'?

Ask for second opinions from your friends. You think what you're wearing may not be as good anymore like you've thought of.

As we age, our tastes for fashion must adjust as well. You don't want to be tagged as a fashion victim right?

Wrinkles would definitely come. When you start smiling no matter how beautiful your teeth are can be a gruesome sight for most gay guys. That you are indeed just a thing of the past.

3. Get ready to accept guys/things as they are.

If you found someone that is so unstable emotionally nor a very active gay guy like you do, try creating a room for some patience and trust. You'll never know that you're the right one for him nor the kind of guy that he'd been waiting for so many years. Every guy you meet can be compared to a gift box filled with some surprises once you get to know him more.

to be continued....