Saturday, September 25, 2010

Gay Realities 101


Being tagged or identified as gay is still horrible and unacceptable to some. The political correctness in defining a "gay" man can raise the eyebrows of most bisexuals not allowing themselves to be tagged as GAY.

Our elders tell us...

1. Do you realize that being gay will lead to you to melancholy eventually?

2. Are you ready to grow old being single as a dirty old gay?

3. Do you risk yourself of acquiring sexually transmitted diseases since the perception of being gay is equals to multiple sex partners?

4. Aren't you afraid of growing old alone in your death bed?

5. Yes you can a fool a woman that you're not gay since you act manly. But is that the real you?

6. Aren't you scared that even though you are respected in your own endeavor but still you are called gay?

7. When will you stop sneaking in my dresser to borrow my make-up or my accessories or worse even my underwear?

8. When will you stop drooling at those straight guys passing by?

9. If you choose being gay for the rest of your life then get ready to be sad most of the time!

10. The happiness that you have right now is alright because you are still young. What if you grow old and lose your beauty?

11. Are you ready to face the grilling questions of your Dad, your friends and relatives?

12. You see your straight friends raising their own families and are you contented of being a godfather most of the time?

13. Are you sick?

14. You think your current boyfriend wont leave you for another man?

15. Why did you become gay? Your father's generation is a generation of studs, soldiers and servicemen.

16. Why do I see most of the time guys visiting you in your apartment and your door is always locked?

17. Why don't I get to see you along with girls locked in your room?

18. When are those boys going to stop calling you?

19. How come I don't see you entangled with a girl?

20. Why do you always come home late having a manly powdery scent?

21. I think the underwear I found under your bed is not yours!

22. How come I found Playgirl magazines in your closet?

23. What is that KY/Petroleum jelly for?

24. How come that whenever we are together you take much of your time inside a men's room?

25. What are those higher generation antibiotics doing in your drawer?

26. How come that your room looks so feminine?

27. Why does the wall paper of your desktop shows muscled men in skimpy undies?

28. Who's that handsome guy I saw you with an hour ago?

29. Why are you visiting the gym daily?

30. Are you GAY??? WTF!!!

Questions like these are indeed traumatic to most of us. Sometimes when we are alone after a sex bout, we are back into a reality of sadness. An emptiness starts to hound us. We ask ourselves sometimes... why we became like this? Why am I different?

We may be successful in our fields but others just can't simply FULLY ACCEPT the way we are.

So what do we do then? Get busy? For how long? Adopt a child? Is that the solution? Marry a girl? Just make sure you fuck her most of the time and not some guy in your neighborhood. Become a priest? Or join some religious congregation? what for? Be religious enough? I hope so.

We can't escape our situation just like that.

So how do we end this?

Your answer is as good as mine.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Understanding and Knowing Your Stalker




We hear this word from time to time. We even crack jokes among our friends. But stalking someone can cause a serious problem to a person's privacy and can lead you to jail. Let's take a look at the definition first:

The term "stalking" is more commonly used to describe specific kinds of behavior directed at a particular person, such as harassing or threatening another person. But the variety of specific strategies employed and behaviors displayed by stalkers are limited only by the creativity and ingenuity of the stalkers themselves. Suffice it to say, virtually any unwanted contact between a stalker and their victim which directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear can generally be referred to as stalking.

Fine. You could be the nicest and most trusting person here on earth. Your being "kind" suddenly brings you into trouble.

The following are the usual habits of a gay stalker, and you may classify yourself if you are one of them:

1. They will ask for your email addresses. They may start asking for your chat messengers and nicks but without you knowing they use that in Googling you.

2. They will take note of every word you say or type in the chat box. Crucial information such as your present employment, company information, school you graduated, your area of residence, provinces, and others.

3. They will ask for your contact numbers, be it cell phones, land line, office numbers.

4. They will ask for your face pictures, or ask you to show yourself on your web cam. Get ready to be recorded or saved.

5. They will bug you 24/7 once they get to know your crucial information.

6. They will try their best to do research about you, even call your friends, ex boy friend/lover family or relatives just to be with you to extract information.

7. They MIGHT steal some of your personal things (even your underwear) to satisfy their cravings for you.

8. They will walk along your path, trace everything even your personal interests and favorites.

9. They are willing to spend to lure you or court you no matter the price tag is.

10. They will remember EVERYTHING about you even your pet's name just to impress you.

Criminal Behind Bars wrote:

Is Stalking a New Phenomenon?

No -- the history of stalking behavior is as old as the history of human relationships. Stalking has always been with us -- what is new is that, until recently, it was never labeled as a separate and distinct class of deviant behavior. Prior to its common usage and its subsequent designation as a crime, stalking was referred to as harassment, annoyance or, in some cases, simply as domestic violence.

In the late 1980s and early 1990s, numerous high-profile cases involving celebrities began to catch the attention of the media and public policy leaders. Only then did such behavior begin to be described as "stalking."

Since then, stalking has become a common subject in the popular media. With the advent of blockbuster films -- such as Fatal Attraction, Cape Fear, and Sleeping with the Enemy -- and its coverage by the news media, "stalking" has become a household word.

Who Are Stalkers?

Demographically:

Stalking is a gender neutral crime, with both male and female perpetrators and victims. How-ever, most stalkers are men. Best statistics indicate that 75-80 percent (75-80%) of all stalking cases involve men stalking women. Most tend to fall into the young to middle-aged categories. Most have above-average intelligence. Stalkers come from every walk of life and every socio-economic background. Virtually anyone can be a stalker, just as anyone can be a stalking victim.

Psychological and Behavioral Profile of Stalkers:

Unfortunately, there is no single psychological or behavioral profile for stalkers. In fact, many experts believe that every stalker is different, making it very difficult not only to categorize their behavior, but doubly difficult to devise effective strategies to cope with such behavior.

Forensic psychologists, who study criminal behavior, are just beginning to examine the minds and motives of stalkers. These psychologists have identified two broad categories of stalkers and stalking behavior -- "Love Obsession" and "Simple Obsession."

Love Obsession Stalkers

This category is characterized by stalkers who develop a love obsession or fixation on another person with whom they have no personal relationship. The target may be only a casual acquaintance or even a complete stranger. This category represents about 20-25 percent (20-25%) of all stalking cases.

Stalkers who stalk celebrities and stars -- such as David Letterman, Jodie Foster, and Madonna -- fall into the category of love obsessionists; however, stalkers in this category also include those who develop fixations on regular, ordinary people -- including co-workers, their aerobics instructor, casual acquaintances or people they pass in the street.

The vast majority of love obsessional stalkers suffer from a mental disorder -- often schizophrenia or paranoia. Regardless of the specific disorder, nearly all display some delusional thought patterns and behaviors. Since most are unable to develop normal personal relationships through more conventional and socially acceptable means, they retreat to a life of fantasy relationships with persons they hardly know, if at all. They invent fictional stories -- complete with what is to them real-life scripts -- which cast their unwilling victims in the lead role as their own love interest. They then attempt to act out their fictional plots in the real world.

The woman who has stalked David Letterman for five years truly believes she is his wife. She has been discovered on Mr. Letterman's property numerous times, has been arrested driving his car and has even appeared at his residence with her own child in tow -- each time insisting that she is David Letterman's wife.

Love obsessional stalkers not only attempt to live out their fantasies, but expect their victims to play their assigned roles as well. They believe they can make the object of their affection love them. They desperately want to establish a positive personal relationship with their victim. When the victim refuses to follow the script or doesn't respond as the stalker hopes, they may attempt to force the victim to comply by use of threats and intimidation.

When threats and intimidation fail, some stalkers turn to violence. Some decide that if they cannot be a positive part of their victim's life, they will be part of their life in a negative way. Some even go so far as to murder their victims in a twisted attempt to romantically link themselves to their victim forever. This was the case with the man who shot and killed Rebecca Schaffer, the young actress and star of the television show My Sister Sam.

Simple Obsession Stalkers

This second category represents 70-80 percent (70-80%) of all stalking cases and is distinguished by the fact that some previous personal or romantic relationship existed between the stalker and the victim before the stalking behavior began.

Virtually all domestic violence cases involving stalking fall under this rubric, as do casual dating relationships (commonly referred to as Fatal Attraction cases, named after the popular movie by the same title).

While this kind of stalker may or may not have psychological disorders, all clearly have personality disorders. One forensic psychologist has attempted to identify some of the common personality traits and behavioral characteristics among this category of stalkers. Stalkers in this class are characterized as individuals who are:

    * Socially maladjusted and inept;
    * Emotionally immature;
    * Often subject to feelings of powerlessness;
    * Unable to succeed in relationships by socially-acceptable means;
    * Jealous, bordering on paranoid; and
    * Extremely insecure about themselves and suffering from low self-esteem.

The self-esteem of simple obsession stalkers is often closely tied to their relationship with their partner. In many cases, such stalkers bolster their own self-esteem by dominating and intimidating their mates. Exercising power over another gives them some sense of power in a world where they otherwise feel powerless. In extreme cases, such personalities attempt to control every aspect of their partner's life. This behavior pat-tern was vividly depicted in the major motion picture entitled Sleeping with the Enemy, where the antagonist turns to intimidation and violence as the means to control every aspect of his victim/wife's life.

Since the victim literally becomes the stalker's primary source of self-esteem, their greatest fear becomes the loss of this person. Their own self-worth is so closely tied to the victim that when they are deprived of that person, they may feel that their own life is without worth.

It is exactly this dynamic that makes simple obsession stalkers so dangerous. In the most acute cases, such stalkers will literally stop at nothing to regain their "lost possession" -- their partner -- and in so doing, regain their lost self-esteem.

Just as with most domestic violence cases, stalkers are the most dangerous when they are first deprived of their source of power and self-esteem; in other words, the time when their victims determine to physically remove themselves from the offender's presence on a permanent basis by leaving the relationship.

Indeed, stalking cases which emerge from domestic violence situations constitute the most common and potentially lethal class of stalking cases. Domestic violence victims who leave an abusive relationship run a 75 percent (75%) higher risk of being murdered by their partners.

Stalking behavior is as diverse as the stalkers themselves. Yet behavioral experts are beginning to identify patterns in the cycle of violence displayed by simple obsession stalkers.

Stalking Behavior Patterns and Cycles:

Stalking behavior patterns closely mirror those common in many domestic violence cases. The pattern is usually triggered when the stalker's advances toward their victim is frustrated -- regardless of whether the stalker is seeking to establish a personal relationship or continue a previously established relationship contrary to the wishes of the victim.

The stalker may attempt to woo their victim into a relationship by sending flowers, candy and love letters, in an attempt to "prove their love." However, when the victim spurns their unwelcome advances, the stalker often turns to intimidation. Such attempts at intimidation often begin in the form of an unjustified, jealous and inappropriate intrusion into the victim's life. Often these contacts become more numerous and intrusive over time, until such collective conduct becomes a persistent pattern of harassment. Many times, harassing behavior escalates to threatening behavior. Such threats may be direct or indirect and communicated explicitly or implicitly by the stalker's conduct. Unfortunately, cases that reach this level of seriousness too often end in violence and/or murder.

Stalkers, unable to establish or re-establish a relationship of power and control over their victims, turn to violence as a means of reasserting their domination over the victim. In some cases, offenders are even willing to kill their victims and themselves in a last, desperate attempt to assert their domination over the victim.

The evolution of the stalker's thought pattern progresses from, "If I can just prove to you how much I love you," to "I can make you love me," to "If I can't have you, nobody else will."

While this progression in behavior is common, no stalking case is completely predictable. Some stalkers may never escalate past the first stage. Others jump from the first stage to the last stage with little warning. Still others regress to previous stages before advancing to the next. It is not uncommon to see stalkers intersperse episodes of threats and violence with flowers and love letters.

As difficult as it is to predict what a stalker might do, it is at least as difficult to predict when he might do it. A few stalkers will progress to later stages in only a few weeks or even days. In other cases, stalkers who have engaged in some of the most serious stalking behaviors may go months or even years without attempting a subsequent contact.

It is this unpredictability that makes developing an effective response strategy so difficult in any particular stalking case.

So... Can I get your number? ;-)

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Wanna Act Discreet? The Final Appeal... (Philippine Setting)



I get dismayed when gay guys declare on their profiles that they want and prefer sex eye balls that are as DISCREET like them as well. FUCK!!! My blood pressure is rising since most of them are SOOOOO STUPID!

Let's take a look at the definition of the word discreet:

Pronunciation: \dis-ˈkrēt, ˈdis-ˌ\
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin discretus

1.  : constituting a separate entity : individually distinct

2.  : consisting of distinct or unconnected elements : noncontinuous


FOR THE LAST TIME HERE ARE TIPS FOR YOU HARD HEADED GAY GUYS...

DO NOT...

1. Post pictures that you appear so girlie, but then again, I can see and sense from the picture alone if you're lying on your poses. Your eyebrows can't lie, your outfits can't lie, your choice of colors can't lie, your hair colors can't lie, your accessories can't lie, your choice of words can't lie, your poses can't lie. YOU STILL LOOK SO BAKLA!

2. Pretend that you are indeed viewed as very discreet even if you are posed half-naked showing your abs or your rippling muscles. With just one look at your pictures I can really tell that you are a screaming fag when I see you in person!

3. Declare that you are indeed discreet since the tasting of the pudding is in the eating. Get ready to be rejected abruptly in case.

4. Post pictures taken 5 years or 10  years ago. This is just an act of foolishness that will just bounce back to you.

5. Write on your profiles things that are incongruent with your claims. You want a discreet sex partner yet the colors of your profile are ranging from pastels to rainbows.

6. Use your main profile pic as if you are a Greek god when it's not you. Pretenders are automatically cursed.

7. Claim that you are handsome nor cute when in FACT YOU AREN'T!

8. Try hard selling yourself when you are not physically marketable. I appreciate honest and humble guys without lifting their own rusted chairs, yet full of surprises once you get to know them. 

9. Post on your profile things that you do not know or capable just to impress other people.

10. LIE, BE A POSER, PRETEND. So what if your body ain't buff? Or you have an average look? BE THE REAL YOU AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART AND COMPASSIONATE. BUT STILL WAG KA KASI MASYADONG BADING NA BADING, sincè here in the Philippines, the effeminates don't have much room for the so-called discreet preferences of gay guys in here. Kapag halata ka you have less chances of winning a dick. The effems of the Philippines are usually attractive for foreigners. But still, those who are trying hard to be discreet cannot pass rigid eyes like mine! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. EVEN ON PROFILE PICS!



 

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How To Detect A Partner with a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD)




Oh yes, there are some helpful tips I gathered from my friend doctors to evade yourself politely from a possibly infected person. Usually, a person who is sick looks tired and inattentive, having some pale skin, droopy eyes or his orifices are overflowing with secretions.

You can contract diseases via the oral-fecal route, or from infected secretions like semen or blood and other infected objects and things used by the host.

So in this case watch for the following signs and symptoms:

1. Sneezing - This is indeed a first sign of defense by the human body to ward off unexpected microbes or microscopic objects out of our body. A person who is sick sneezes out his extra microbes in very high speeds to lessen his infection in his respiratory tract. Do your best to quickly cover your mouth or your nose to inhale his microbes.

2. Coughing - Expectorating is another form of flushing out excess liquids or solids from our respiratory tract. Another defense mechanism so our lungs can breathe freely and clearing our air passage. A person who is sick can share his microbes through the oral route VERY FAST to the recipient. If the guy you've met coughs every 5 minutes, obviously he is SICK. A smokers cough attacks from time to time, but if his cough sounds solid with some phlegm ready to be released then he has bacterial infection already. You see his phlegm green or yellow or with some blood? You may start to run. The TB bacteria has a reputation to stay and survive for a longer period of time in the air.

3. Shaking Hands - Sex Eyeballs usually start with this. Without you knowing, his bacteria and viruses are already transferred into your hands and then your hands go straight to your mouth. Always be ready with your hand sanitizer.

4. The High Temperature - try to feel the intensity of his warm hands. Try to make an effort to touch his skin or his forehead discreetly. A person who is sick and infected is usually having high fevers.

5. Check for Some Warts - If you don't know how to spot them, they can look like small moles. Though most doctors say that these form of viruses are harmless. Warts can be found all over the body, genital warts is a bit of an irritation. And of course they are communicable. They are usually itchy and spreads. The Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) is another that you should be careful.

6. Be A Keen Observant / Use your Eye and Look Into His Eyes - Educate yourself in identifying different types of medications. The usage of higher generation of antibiotics is sure sign of a high infection from continuously incubating microbes. The "dreamy look" pupils of your eyeball cannot deny his weak health.

7. Groin Scratching - you may suspect that your friend has fungal infection, if you see that he frequently scratches then he might be having some fungal spots on his groin (don't touch or lick that), these are usually swollen skin patches and reddish. Crabs infection is another STD that is irritating. These tiny little insects feed on the juices of our pubes that lays eggs in the pubic hairs. They are either transparent or translucent and therefore invisible to the naked eye sometimes. People will scratch their groins from time to time and harvest some eggs or fully grown crabs on their finger nails unnoticeably. You would be surprised that the small objects from your finger nails can indeed crawl and jump and make their effort to transfer to a new host that is YOU. So how can you avoid not being infected when your groins are entwined while having sex? Now you know what to do.

8.Check for Some Wounds and Bruises or Bumps - An unhealthy lifestyle is usually reflected in the skin of your sex eyeball. If you see some chanchre / lesions then you may avoid rubbing your skin with him or simply run away if you could LOL.

9. Spot for some swollen lumps or glands on his neck and other body parts - A swollen lymph gland is a sign that the human body is at its height fighting an infection.

For some people with sickness, they don't show any forms or signs of infection. Probably due to the high state of immune system the moment the two of you met. Or they could have taken a few hours earlier some paracetamols or antibiotics to camouflage their state of health.

Let me give you an example. Syphilis can be chronic. Meaning, it comes back once in a while if you are not treated TOTALLY. Doctors call syphilis as the "Great Imitator". Because it imitates all the signs and symptoms of someone who has fever or flu and others. You take a pain reliever if you have fever, then it's gone, but the syphilis bacteria is still inside your body continuously multiplying. The end stage is Nervous System breakdown. Then you die if left untreated for years. Only an Internal Medicine specialist can discuss details with you. They are the best guys to be seen to treat STDs and not a general practitioner or your friendly family doctor.

So be careful with your sex eyeballs having warm temperature higher than 37 degrees in Celsius.

Don't Forget! When there's fever, THERE IS AN INFECTION!

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

WHAT IS EXACTLY IN THE MIND OF A GAY SERIAL KILLER?



Though this kind of crime is a rarity in the Philippines, it is worthwhile to study and understand what causes our gay sisters to be involved in gruesome crimes.

The Filipino Family is quite intact and is in fact extended. Extended in the sense that children above 18 continue to stay with their parents even when they grow old until they have and raise their own children. The family may also include their Aunts and Uncles and cousins etc. etc. Social, Family, Spiritual and Environmental support abounds every Filipino. Thus committing a gay murder crime is very rare unless sensationalized by some irresponsible journalists.

In reality, no society is an exception in committing crimes not to mention serial killings.

There are numerous factors indeed what drives a person to commit suicide or kill another person.

Why talk about gay serial killers? Or... What is a Serial Killer?

A serial killer is a person who murders three or more people over a period of more than thirty days, with a "cooling off" period between each murder, and whose motivation for killing is largely based on psychological gratification. Often, a sexual element is involved with the killings. The murders may have been attempted or completed in a similar fashion and the victims may have had something in common; for example, occupation, race, appearance, sex, or age group.

Serial killers are not the same as mass murderers, who commit multiple murders at one time; nor are they spree killers, who commit murders in two or more locations with virtually no break in between. Coinage of the English term serial killer is commonly attributed to former FBI Special Agent Robert Ressler in the 1970s. The concept had been described earlier, e.g. by German police inspector Ernst Gennat coining the same term in 1930.


Craig Young wrote:

According to crime writer Harold Schechter, only about fourteen percent of all serial killers have been gay, including Dennis Nilssen, Jeffrey Dahmer and John Wayne Gacy. Of female serial killers, only Aileen Wuornos was identifiably lesbian. Still others rape, murder and/or mutilate anyone unlucky enough to come across them, no matter what age, ethnicity or gender, like nineteenth century French serial killer Joseph Vacher, Russia’s Andrei Chikatelo, or paedophile and deranged fundamentalist Albert Fish in the twenties.

What turns someone into a serial killer? Many theories abound. According to several FBI investigators, serial killers tend to mostly be single white males, who are moderately intelligent but have poor educational histories, often working as unskilled labourers. They usually come from abusive or dysfunctional families, usually with criminal, mentally ill and/ alcohol and drug addicted parents who sexually, physically and emotionally abuse them. This leads the individual serial killer to develop his or her own mental health problems, often resulting in suicide attempts. They may also have an interest in predatory forms of paraphilia.

Canadian psychologist Robert Hare argues that psychopaths display about twenty discernable personality attributes. They possess a veneer of charm, but are also egotistical, have low interest thresholds, are prone to deceive others, connive to do so, and lack remorse or guilt for their behaviour. They also manifest shallow emotions, lack of empathy, callousness toward others, poor social skills, early behavioural problems, difficulties with strategic reasoning, poor impulse control, irresponsibility, serial monogamy or promiscuity, criminal youth, failure to follow bail conditions and versatility in prior criminal behaviour.

Starkly though, their victims are often the poor and disposed, whether male or female, often members of ethnic minorities, transients or sex workers, ironically often themselves on the run from their own abusive and dysfunctional family. Perhaps that is the final irony. While we rightly abhor the carnage of serial killers, there wouldn’t be a reservoir of victims if not for contemporary social service cutbacks or gaps in those services.

Wikipedia adds:

Serial killers in the United States tend to share the following general characteristics:

   1. The majority are single, white males. However, there are scores of recorded cases of non-Caucasian serial killers, such as Coral Watts, Wayne Williams, Timothy Spencer, Charles Ng, Angel Maturino Reséndiz, Richard Ramirez, George Russell, and serial snipers John Muhammad and Lee Malvo.
   2. They are often intelligent, with IQs in the "bright normal" range.
   3. Often they have trouble staying employed. Usually they have menial jobs as well.
   4. They tend to come from unstable families.
   5. As children, they are typically abandoned by their fathers and raised by domineering mothers.
   6. Their families often have criminal, psychiatric and alcoholic histories.
   7. They were often abused—emotionally, physically and/or sexually—by a family member.
   8. They have high rates of suicide attempts.
   9. From an early age, many are intensely interested in voyeurism, fetishism, and sadomasochistic pornography.
  10. More than 60 percent wet their beds beyond the age of 12.
  11. Many are fascinated with fire starting.
  12. They are involved in sadistic activity or torturing small animals.

However, these are not always the case, as there are exceptions to this.

Psychosis is rarely noted among serial killers. The predominant psychiatric diagnosis noted in the group tends toward the psychopathic, meaning they suffer from traits within a specific cluster of dysfunctional personality characteristics, those most commonly associated with antisocial personality disorder or dissocial personality disorder.  Psychopaths lack empathy and guilt, are egocentric and impulsive, and do not conform to social, moral and legal norms. Instead, psychopaths often follow a distinct set of rules which they have created for themselves. They may appear to be normal and often quite charming, a state of adaptation that psychiatrist Hervey Cleckley named the "mask of sanity". Although psychopathy is not an official term in the DSM-IV, it is a disorder that involves traits that are both antisocial as well as narcissistic.

Let it be reminded that this do not imply a causal relationship between homosexuality and serial killing.

Serial killers and their victims include people from all races, cultures, nationalities, economic background, educational levels, genders, and sexual orientations. Because serial killers are so rare, it is impossible to use any demographic indicator as a predictor. There are no "rules" and all apparent trends have been broken. But some general observations can be made.

Serial killers are nearly always men (93%). Furthermore, of the relatively few female serial killers, one third of them worked in partnership with males.

If you want to see the complete list of homo and lesbian serial killers kindly visit this website:

http://www.adherents.com/misc/hsk.html

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Fetishism Defined and Deconstructed



Our liking for some objects is just normal, but if our reverence for them reaches the maximum then it's beyond normal already. Others find this one as an abnormal behavior that can lead to kinky sexual thoughts. Let's take a look at the definition from the experts first.

variant - fetich

Etymology:

1610s, fatisso, from Port. fetiço "charm, sorcery," originally feitiço "made artfully, artificial," from Latin facticius "made by art," from facere "to make" (see factitious). Latin facticius in Spanish has become hechizo  "magic, witchcraft, sorcery." Probably introduced by Portuguese sailors and traders as a name for charms and talismans worshipped by the inhabitants of the Guinea coast of Africa. Popularized in anthropology by C. deCulte des Dieux Fétiches" (1760), which influenced the word's spelling in English (French fétiche, also from the Portuguese word). Figurative sense of "something irrationally revered" is American English 1837

Merriam-Webster's definition:

An object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly: a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence; b: an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion

Origins:

This was first described by Sigmund Freud in 1887, sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia, a psychological disorder that involves some kind of obsessive sexual desire. Other kinds of include voyeurism ("Peeping Toms"), exhibitionism ("flashing" people) and ("cross-dressing"). The paraphiliatransvestitismparaphilia

According to Martin P. Kafka, M.D., in his article "Therapy for Sexual Impulsivity: The Paraphilias and Paraphilia-Related Disorders," fetishism is usually a male disorder. Psychiatrists and psychologists don’t generally agree on what causes a fetish or why it is so predominant in males.

Symptoms:

Fetishism is called an obsession because the object of obsession must be involved in order to reach sexual satisfaction. Also, the obsession often interferes with your life. It is a compulsion, or something you have to do.

There are fetishes that are more common than others. Some typical fetishes include ones focused on underwear, body piercings, wigs, leather, stockings or bras. There is also a similar form of paraphilia known as partialism. This is when a part of the body is the object of sexual arousal. Partialism is different from sexual fetishism because the object of obsession is not inanimate.

Treatment:

Therapy is the only treatment for extreme sexual fetishes. While in some cases, a sexual fetish is not obsessive and may be left untreated, most sexual fetishes are extreme and one cannot reach sexual satisfaction without it. You should seek therapy and possibly take psychoactive medication in this case.

So where do you belong then? Do you consider yourself having this kind of behavior?

My Own Fetish

I admit. I used to collect underwears of my men from previous sexual encounters. I was able to keep three dozens through begging or used my charm to have them. I valued most the underwears with traces of their cum. =)

One chat mate of mine from the Philippines, when I was working overseas sent me his two underwears laden with his dried cum. We regularly chatted with webcam jerking himself heavily then pouring his semen in his underwear then mailed them to me.

What did I do with cum-laden briefs? I sniffed them, licked his dried cum while he's gladly watching me on my webcam eating his undies. ;-)

He loved the sight he was seeing and what I was doing. But of course, he was jerking in real time at my actions showing himself happily in his webcam.

Prior to my working overseas, I already have those dozens of undies in my closet. Undies from my sexual eyeballs (guys go home without their undies LOL), and undies from my previous boyfriends.

I just realized one day that I stopped collecting undies from my sexual partners. At present I'm not asking anymore from my partners to leave me some remembrance. So in this case, am I treated? I guess so. I don't need a therapy to cure me if they define this one as a mental illness.

But I still do love the sight of guys with their erect manhood trying to escape from the cloth.

Perhaps you would want to ask what my Mom did to the collection of undies I've had in my closet? She even bothered to call me overseas reporting to me about her discovery. She washed ALL OF THEM! Thinking they were mine. ;-)

How about you? What's your fetish?

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Get That Straight Guy Straight Into Your Bed!


Most Straight Guys Are Easy To Get. Believe Me!

It's a funny thought for some gay men but the thing is that you just don't know how to. ;-)

This all depends on the situation you are in and how you sell yourself to them.

If your character is more on the straight-looking attitude then you have more chances of winning them. But remember, this could be a make or break for you. It's a dangerous act as well!

Straight men like us gay people are also varied in many ways. Some prefer effeminates with girlie looks. Others prefer straight-looking as well so their image won't be tainted involving themselves in gay sex.

Here are the FACTS and Incidences I had observed and EXPERIENCED:

THE POWER OF ALCOHOL

If you get invited to hang out with or a drink with them. Get ready to be the funniest and happiest guy to be with. Your humor and jokes will catch their attention. If you're pretty that's a plus factor. Be the simplest GRO if you can. BUT don't flicker your fingers or sway your hips because that might turn them off!

Assist the men in offering the next rounds of bottles or glasses to drink. Be hospitable. Try to be a "hospitality girl" later =)

Your caring and nurturing attitude will get their nods that you're a nice guy too.

certainly at this time, your eyes may start to gaze at their delicious crotches and who knows, a guy will catch your eye and wink at you. ;-)

Flooding them with alcohol at your expense is guaranteed 95% to touch their skins or might allow you to hug them and hug you back. BUT still be very very discreet. CONTROL YOUR HANDS! DON'T TOUCH THAT DELICIOUS MERCHANDISE UNLESS THEY GIVE YOU A POSITIVE SIGNAL. Or you get home EARLY with a BLACK EYE.

A game straight guy has no qualms and inhibitions remember that. For some. their dicks are to be shared and worshiped by you in some cases.

But there's one thing I've noticed with straight guys... their dicks are smelly! LOL

Once the drinking session is over and got nothing to drink. (make sure you're not heavily drunk in this case) You start spotting guys that are already out of their behavior. Be careful with guys sleeping you might be the one surprised if you make the wrong move!

Observe the guys who frequent the restroom to urinate, if they look at you or wink at you all the time, it's a positive sign. You can go Girl! =) Discreetly follow them for some excuse to assist whatsoever =)

When you are successful in your hunt, pretend that nothing happened after that. Don't forget to wipe your face or your lips for traces of semen. =) Go back to your seat or simply leave the place. If you have the courage to leave your card to the guy, you may do so. Be ready for some more hot action if he enjoyed with you. =)

ON THE ROAD

Oh yes! It is kinda hard to spot REAL MEN TODAY! LOL
But what the heck, if he's cute go get HIM!

Usually, they might ask questions or some form of assistance from you. Try to entertain if their questions and queries are valid enough to safeguard your safety. When in doubt, just turn your back around gracefully.

An exchange of contact numbers is also inevitable after that. It will entirely depend on you if you would like to pursue with your sinister plan. =)

Be kind, be helpful, offer what you can. But try to say NO when it's too much already.

If he expresses some form of interest like you do, then he's not straight! LOL

Straight men usually don't ask details about other men. A simple hand shake or good bye is enough.

MOVIE HOUSES

Come on! Straight men don't cruise around! They'd rather go to a girlie bar if they want pussies!

If you do find them there. Then lucky you! =)

BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST

Straight men longs for a good conversation, be it about business or pleasure or sports. If you are the kind of guy who can discuss anything under the sun, then you are most likely be successful in hooking up with a straight guy eventually. Have some decency and professionalism first. Don't let his pretty face or huge bulge in his crotch put you down.

Bragging is a big NO NO for them. Talk with sense and sensibilities.

OFFER YOUR TALENT

I don't mean here your sexpertise. Damn It! LOL

Discuss things to him that will spark the interest of the guy. But DON'T PRETEND or look STUPID in the end.

He needs help with Math or Physics? Semantics? Spanish? Or even Astronomy if you know such.

His gratitude might lead the two of you in bed. =)

ACCIDENTALLY DROP YOUR WALLET SHOWING YOUR DOZENS OF CREDIT CARDS and ATMs SCATTERED ON THE FLOOR

Do this discreetly, make it appear unintentional. Make sure they are all active and working. =) Who doesn't need money in this material world? Only a Saint can snob your wealth and assets.

WEAR YOUR LUXURY CLOTHES and ACCESSORIES

Regardless if it's just a T-Shirt or blue jeans but if it shows Armani or D&G or Prada or Hugo Boss or a Cesare Marinucci shoes in the label. These things are sure eye popping for the discriminating straight men.

But be careful. Don't choose the happy colors. Keep it minimal and under toned.

FLASH YOUR BEST CAR (If you could afford)

Men loves fast cars and expensive ones. You don't even need to volunteer offering him a ride. He will ask you. Your chance to touch his thighs and up... =)

BRING A PRETTY GIRLFRIEND

Our pretty sisters are a sure fire BAIT for straight guys. They would even envy you having the girl. Without them knowing about your plan, they can have the girl BUT after you having them first. HAHAHAHA.

BE A GOOD COOK

Thousands of times our friends tell us. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach! In my experience, I just prepared a cup of coffee after a drinking session, then after, the guy followed me in the kitchen letting me eat and drink his cum in return. ;-)

LEARN HOW TO SING

There is something powerful about music we cannot fathom at times. It is indeed true that music is food for the soul. Every time I sing, (your voice must be good) I see straight men gazing at me differently. I start to imagine many of them would propose some form of marriage after I sing. HAHAHAHA. Or perhaps they can imagine how I can sing using their own microphones. LOL

FLASH YOUR BEST SMILE OR BEST IF YOU HAVE DIMPLES

A welcoming face is an assurance that you are open for anything.

BE FRIENDLY

This doesn't need further explanation. Remain humble and respectful of other views and opinions. A simple nod with a straight guy would make him feel comfortable with you.

THE BEND and SNAP

Yeah, very Legally Blonde LOL. But do it manly, pointing your ass to his face or crotch as if you're inviting for an unexpected fuck. ;-)

Good luck Guys... Call your lawyer if you get some bruises ;-)

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

THE LUST FOR MARRIED MEN


Though shall not covet thy neighbor's HUSBAND...

What makes married men insatiably attractive for gay guys?

Being gay has several reasons and factors to consider and determine its origins. I'm sure you've read a lot as well, why are WE or YOU acting and behaving this way. Some even majored in Psychology to answer their own personal questions and inquiries.

We have learned that OUR BEHAVIOR and SITUATION is not A MAJOR DISEASE.

We are creative and adventurous. EVEN IN SEX.

We've tried the single men, of different sizes, shapes and colors. Why not pick on married guys as well? ;-)

Why some of us like or lust for them...

1. They seem responsible looking, since they are married. Gays find it hard to look for a potential "husband" or partner for a longer period and thus willing to be mistresses if given a chance.

2. Some gay men long for a stronger and tougher partners to understand them.

3. Straight married men has no qualms in many things, especially in sex. I see straight men don't mind showing their dicks while urinating that makes a gay guy gasp for breaths on a sumptuous view beside them.

4. Their being MEN as tough is no longer in question. We imagine them eating and fucking pussies so might as well have our asses ready to be tried by his prick.

5. We can offer these married men sexual pleasure their wives can't give nor fulfill. Only another man knows how to make a man truly gratified in sex NO HOLDS BARRED.

6. We don't care much about moralities, and thus we can offer them sexual pleasure at any time or at any place! Be it in Public or in Private!

7. We can offer them comfort depending on our capabilities and capacities. Your own savings in exchange for his valued sperm. Our own shoulders in case they would want to cry after a fight with his wife. Our place in case she was sent out of bed by his wife.

8. We accept the fact that we are willing to play the role of a "gaystress".

9. We can prepare food or better things his wife can't give.

10. His being mysterious as a partner in bed makes you wonder and lust for more.


11. We are always there for him no matter what!

One married guy told me this... "If only you're a woman and can give me babies, I will leave my wife for you..."

I have learned and read multiple stories like this. But PLEASE, do not wish that his wife will die soon. A straight married guy will like you as long as you don't go overboard. You can go ahead take good care of his kids or some members of his family. BUT DON'T DREAM YOU WILL OWN HIM TOTALLY, that is becoming SELFISH already!

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Where the Hell Is He?

Ever Wondered Why Sometimes Your Good Old Gay Fuck Friend Is Silent Suddenly?

It does happen. You even thought or hoped that you two would blossom into a possible relationship, but he's suddenly lost in oblivion.

You had excellent sex, maybe once or twice. Exchanged phone calls or text messages and then he went PFFFT...

Here are the possible reasons:

1. He found someone more alluring than you.

2. He discovered and learned something about you that is not so good that caused his runaway.

3. His family discovered about his being GAY. He is so shattered at the moment.

4. He left working overseas suddenly and unexpectedly.

5. He decided to quit practicing his homosexual acts and realized about his future, trying to convince wooing a girl to get her nod.

6. He got married. Either with another guy or girl.

7. He's afflicted with a dreaded disease? You hope and pray not.

8. He's back in school that eats most of his time.

9. He's now a transvestite LOL.

10. He lost his mobile phone and lost his contacts.

11. His being handsome makes him very very busy that finding a partner is not his big problem.

12. He simply died. That doesn't need notification. Right?

To Swallow Or Not To Swallow Cum?

General Rule. You DON'T!

Unless...

1. You knew the guy for a long time, not having a reputation as a cruiser, married with a woman somehow (coz he cares for his family and kids), did not meet the guy in unusual and unsafe places.

2. You don't have a sore in your mouth, where the microbes can penetrate your blood system. However... think about this scenario, you brush your teeth for that clean feeling before "eating" then again, gums bleed while brushing, THEREFORE still not safe, gum cells are still OPEN!

3.The guy shows you a fresh (a week at least) (infections usually incubate within a week or two) and recent medical blood examination from a reputable laboratory, showing NON-REACTIVE for the following: syphilis, Trichomonas, gonorrhea, chlamydia, Herpes, hepatitis and HIV tests.

4. You are willing to take the risk no matter how handsome the guy is and you don't seem to care, felt like you are sucking a Greek god. Remember... the most attractive ones (since they are often sought of) are the dangerous carriers of which they too are not pretty aware of as disease carriers. Suck an ugly guy instead? (safer I think) hahahaha

5. You are still using your BRAIN as your largest sex organ.

6. You believe that the CUM is indeed nutritious. Yes it is! It has Vitamins B to Z. See this:

Semen Nutrition Facts

Serving Size 1 Tbsp. (20cc)
Servings Per Container about 1 every 6 hours
Amount Per Serving
Calories 15 .................Calories from Fat 0

Daily Value Total Fat 0g............................................0
Saturated Fat 0g.......................................0
Cholesterol 0mg.....................................0
Sodium 10mg..........................................5
Total Carbohydrate 1g..........................1
Protein .05g
Vitamin A 0 .........................VitaminC .5
Vitamin B12 2 .......................Zinc3

Here's another thing:

A typical ejaculation fills up about one teaspoon; the actual amount is determined by a man's age (younger men usually make more semen), when he last ejaculated, and how long he's aroused before ejaculating, among other factors. Contrary to what you've heard, semen is not loaded with calories. Each teaspoon of ejaculate has about 5 - 7 calories and some 200 - 500 million sperm. Since sperm make up only about 1 percent of semen, what accounts for the other 99 percent? Well, its other ingredients include:

 * Fructose sugar
 * Water
 * Ascorbic acid (a.k.a., vitamin C)
 * Citric acid
 * Enzymes
 * Protein
 * Phosphate and bicarbonate buffers (bases)
 * Zinc

Remember: Ingesting too much semen can cause diarrhea. (Just like what happened to that Famous 80s band lead singer) ;-)

Do You Deny That YOU ARE GAY??? Oh C'mon...


Firstly. WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU DOING IN GAY SITES??? =)

It is true that it still hurts when people call you BAKLA! Even if you ask the effeminate ones they also get hurt whenever they are branded as such. They may deny that they are already used to such branding but deep inside it really hurts and get furiously mad most of the time.

Thus, the war freak nature of being gay is a defense mechanism to ward off insults and lambasts in advance.They might as well show-off, get loud in public, get noisy. They would rather go OUT than  being tagged FIRST as a faggot. To hell with the public, if they are culture shocked or not.

I will not use psychiatric or medical terms here so that every gay reader will learn to analyze and help themselves. Words such as BI, DISCREET, TRIPPER, CONFUSED, etc. etc. are all baloneys! These are all still equal to being GAY! Done with the same sex? A lot of times? That is being HOMO!

Remember, the radar of every gay rarely fails in smelling people like us.

Sexual preference for non-effeminate fuckbuds??? Geez... mind you, most of the guys claiming they prefer manly guys as sexual partners because they themselves are the effeminate ones in the unguarded moments of their daily lives.

Many years ago, I had observed totally out gays in public learned the rigors of straight-looking habits, just to get a hook-up for lust's sake. I have seen a lot of my friends nowadays who were totally out many years ago and are now sporting their facial hairs, attending the gym with luscious bodies to cover their effiminacies. Yet, the voices, the finger movements and sway of hips, the choice of colors and apparel or outfits really can't deny that they are indeed the lost daughters and sisters of Eve.

I had sex with lots of men having these features and thereby experience is the best teacher in learning the gay lifestyles. The actual sex bout is another stage in determining the gayness of your partner. Fine! He has no traces on your first meet up. BUT! He squeals like a lost racoon or a crying baby panda moaning while being sucked or fucked. JEEZZZZZ....

It is a funny thought that after sex, most gays release the natural them. They start speaking gay lingos, flickering their fingers, and voices become girly. Now now... you start to regret you had sex with that creature? The rude ones start texting their (done) sex partners with rude comments for being so gay... *%@*&%*!@ Ha Ha Ha.

I had the same feeling. I saw some of them in public not seeing me. One... dancing ballet buying something in a sari sari store; two... out with the most effiminate gays of the town in a bar; three...hair is dyed ala Marilyn Monroe; four...wearing a tight shirt for girls. It's done anyway. Charged to experience.

You cannot blame why the gays of today prefer as such. THEY ALL HAVE DENIALS! They cheat themselves of not accepting as one.

FACT! Being gay is only great when you are still young and beautiful. Next decades around, you belong to the generation of laughing stuffs. THE LAW OF KARMA. You are the one forcing people to have sex with you, or even buy them.

You are in your teens? Be happy and gay, time to explore your adolescent gayness. In the 20s? A height for deeper explorations and diseases as well =) 30s? You may want to settle coz you are somehow tired of your sexcapades. 40s? You start buying creams and lotions to conceal your wrinkles, you also start using your money to suck a dick especially when you are not beautiful. 50s? It's time to panic!

Save with lots of money if you decided to harbor your being gay for the rest of your life. Money lures eveything. friends, sex, even distant relatives. they will remember you because you have food, water, amenities, or luxuries. An old gay is a one-stop shop help desk.

So you are not gay? stop looking at every man's crotch! That is... if you can resist. =)










How Discriminating and Cultured Gay Guy Are You?

The Philippine Setting

Are you the kind of person who”s difficult to be pleased? Do you have the kind of eyes that works like a detailed MRI scanning or a 4D Ultrasound to detect the culture and traits of a person?
 
Hold your horses… this can be a test to assess yourselves as well, if you are indeed a legitimate elitist person.

1. Where do you stay? Simply put, where do you live or your area of residence?

Living in the capital city of Manila is no guarantee that you are a moneyed person unless you are a Chinese businessman having business in Binondo area. Residential houses in Manila are VERY RARE that people are contented in renting middle class apartments only. The real elite people of Manila are usually having properties at the same time in the South or in Quezon City not to mention the posh villages of Makati and Ortigas-Mandaluyong-Pasig districts.
Condominium living is also in question. Where is it located? What are its amenities? How big is the unit? Do you live like a sardine inside a concrete box?

2. Is Toyota, Nissan, Mitsubishi and Honda still special for you? 

Think instead of the cheapest BMW car or Ford. A Mercedes Benz is still a head turner depending on the model and year it was released. Heard about Bentley or Hummer? Driving them is a different feeling rather than riding with friends only. Spostcars in the Philippines are usually offered at their cheapest models, not to mention that the city streets and roads of Manila is very unideal for fast cars. With the kind of income the above average Filipino has, owning a brand new one is almost next to impossible unless you are a political elite or a business magnate. Even the local moviestars are experiencing their dying film industry.

3. Where did you graduate? 

Entering a top university in the Philippines is becoming more prohibitive with the kind of tuition fees they are posting. Money isn't the only requirement to enter, you must have the desirable grades for you to get in. University rankings are of course subjective, depending on the reputation of who”s creating these league tables. In the Philippines, being an educated elite requires you to attend the internationally recognized and accredited universities only! Accreditation that is awarded and recognized worldwide, rankings by international magazines and accrediting bodies and is welcomed by the famed Ivy League universities in the US and the Oxbridge fame from the UK. Constantly making it to the finals are the usual schools of Ateneo, De La Salle, UP and UST. The famous universities in the countryside are also recognized but not as “specially treated” as the ones we have in Manila or Quezon city. What about the rest of the exclusive schools? Sorry to say that when it comes to international standing, academic researches, number of Faculty with PhDs from abroad, hundreds of thousands of volumes of acquisitions in the library and publications are important BIG factors that edges the rest OUT. You studied abroad? WOW! That would mean roughly minimum of 1.5 million pesos of tuition per year for an ordinary course.

4. Do you own an Energie, Katharine Hamnett, Paul Smith, Prada, Louis Vuitton, Ferragamo, Marc Jacobs, etc. etc. apparel? 

If not… continue working hard to own one. I am an Armani collector but believe me I don”t like or own an Armani Exchange. Why? It”s the cheapest Armani. LOLs. I only go for Emporio Armani, Armani Jeans and up. And when I say I”ll wear Armani, this would mean from my head down to my feet. All Armani. Not just an Armani underwear. My Armani starts from my eyewear.

5. Where Do You Usually Hang-out?

This is tricky. People move from one place to another. Filthy rich people can be anywhere they wish to. They can mingle with the yuppies, the working class, the masses. They can be homebody at times or travel once in a while. Splurging money is a usual habit but due to the global crisis this is put to a halt temporarily, that is… if they are educated in the science of economics.
So what if you frequent Glorietta? You are there to hunt? To dine Or to shop? You've been spotted at Rockwell but how often? The Fort is a hip place but I still see people “judging from their outfits” still enjoying it.

In other words, FREQUENCY to a “particular hip place” is one criterion to be identified as a “regular BIG spender”. Be mindful as well that in these places you would also see “social climbers” wearing their “ukay-ukay” outfits. People born with a “golden spoon” and not silver knows how to detect the naturally born “ilustrado”. SO… do not push yourselves too hard to catch a big fish if you are just a plain individual. You might not like to hear or feel the discreet “insults” of the moneyed people. Do you still hold your bottle of beer standing inside a club for five hours???

Compare these words…

“I was in Paris last week But I still prefer London than Copenhagen…”

“My father is in Riyadh and plans to go home next month and will bring me a new Plasma screen as well as a new portable Play Station”.

Im tired of Boracay, I”d rather go to Ibiza or Casablanca AGAIN!

I”m just here for a vacation but I need to return this weekend to consult my Tutor and assist me with my college matriculations.

My Louis Vuitton luggages are insured…

If some of these words still shock you, THEN… you know where you stand.

6. Watch Your Language. 

I always appreciate honest people conversing in their own native tongue. BUT PLEASE… DO NOT PUNISH YOURSELVES TALKING IN A LANGUAGE YOU ARE NOT FLUENT! Do you talk trash? Be mindful also of the overnight English speakers, people who memorize movie or poetry lines just to impress you. Pick-up lines that is so yuckie rather that yuppie. I have nothing against people working in contact centers but some of them can really make me smile wondering how were they able to get in.

7. Do You Love To Travel?

If your answer is YES, Congratulations! BUT!!! Whereto? Whereat? Wherefrom?

Locally… if you are so proud you've been to Puerto Galera or Pagsanjan or Daranak Falls, these places are common cheap places for cruising. Boracay? This ain't good at present as from years back but still lovable and a big dream for most. Been to Amanpulo, Palawan? Now… now… you must be rich.

Hongkong, Singapore, Bangkok? Mind you, these are our neighbors that can be easily reached at lower air fares that is a lot cheaper than reaching and spending at El Nido.

THEREFORE… the cost of airfare is measured here. The longer the haul the more trendsetter you are reputed to be.

8. Cash or Credit?

Having a VISA or a MASTERCARD is just ordinary nowadays. You have a classic silver card? Then, you are an ordinary professional. You got a Gold card? Good Job! BUT!!! Make sure this is not an extension from your friends or relatives. American Express? The green classic is still eye-popping but the ELITE cardholders possesses the BLACK AMEX which HAS NO CREDIT LIMIT!
Cash? Have a minimum of at least 10,000 PHP on your wallet DAILY!